You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah (2023)
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Two best friends find their friendship strained as they compete for the attention of the same popular boy during their bat mitzvah preparations.
The story
Stacy Friedman dreams of a perfect bat mitzvah shared with her best friend Lydia Rodriguez Katz, but tensions rise as they both vie for the attention of her crush, Andy Goldfarb. While trying to plan the ideal celebration, Stacy clashes with her parents over the importance of the event. After a humiliating incident involving a dare at a local ledge, the girls' friendship fractures. Stacy feels betrayed when she discovers Lydia is dating Andy, leading her to engage in acts of sabotage against her friend's upcoming celebration.
Full plot (contains spoilers)
Stacy Friedman dreams of a perfect bat mitzvah with her best friend Lydia Rodriguez Katz, but the plans go awry as both girls compete for the attention of Andy Goldfarb. After a humiliating dare at a ledge leads to a falling out, Stacy feels betrayed when she learns Lydia and Andy are dating. Stacy begins sabotaging Lydia's bat mitzvah preparations, including creating a humiliating entrance video. Meanwhile, Stacy tries to win over Andy by pretending to volunteer at his grandmother's retirement home. During a secret moment with Andy, they are interrupted by a rabbi, causing more friction with Stacy's father. At Lydia's bat mitzvah, the sabotaged video is accidentally played by Lydia's mother, causing a public scene. On her own bat mitzvah day, Stacy confesses her actions to the audience and berates Andy for his behavior. She then runs through town to apologize to Lydia, inviting her to her party. The girls reconcile, and Stacy begins dancing with a new classmate, Matteo. The film ends with the friends holding a bake sale for the retirement home.
- First release year
- 2023
- Runtime (minutes)
- 103
- Production countries
- United States
- Original languages
- English
- Directors
- Sammi Cohen
- Writers
- Alison Peck · writer
- Cast and characters
- Idina Menzel · Bree Friedman, Stacy and Ronnie's mother; Jackie Sandler · Gabi Rodriguez Katz, Lydia's mother; Adam Sandler · Danny Friedman, Stacy and Ronnie's father; Sadie Sandler · Ronnie Friedman, a high school student and Stacy's older sister; Sunny Sandler · Stacy Friedman, a middle school student looking forward to her bat mitzvah; Samantha Lorraine · Lydia Rodriguez Katz, Stacy's half-Jewish, half-Hispanic best friend; Dylan Hoffman · Andy Goldfarb, Stacy's classmate and love interest; Sarah Sherman · Rebecca, a rabbi
- Genres
- coming-of-age; comedy-drama
- Themes
- Friendship; Coming-of-age; Jewish identity; Peer pressure
- Tone and mood
- Comedy; Drama
- Premise and plot tags
- Coming-of-age; Buddy comedy; Jewish culture; High school
- Source material / true-story basis
- 2005 young adult novel of the same name by Fiona Rosenbloom
- Reported review scores
- Metacritic · score: 71 · scale: 100 · review count: 20
- Production trivia
- The film was adapted from a 2005 young adult novel.; Principal photography took place in Toronto, Canada.; The film features a cast including Adam Sandler and his wife, Jackie Sandler.
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